A very good friend of mine hung around after work for some end-of-week drinkies. He was chatting with his work chums when, after a couple of Steinlargers and a bit of conversation on the topic, one of them told him he “doesn’t mind people being gay, but doesn’t accept it, as he knows it isn’t the right lifestyle.” (paraphrasing)
“Don’t worry though, I still like you as a person.”
You know what?
You don’t accept us? Oh, it’s all right though as you still like us as people. Fuck that. How are we to like you in return if you don’t accept who we are, if you don’t accept who we love? Our sexuality does nothing to you, so why do you feel the need to tell us that you doesn’t accept it.
You don’t get to not accept other people’s “lifestyles” (even if sexuality were a lifestyle), society doesn’t work that way. You’re free to not do what ever you want with yourself, but you can’t tell us that you don’t accept what we do.
It’s shit like this that makes us feel inferior, that makes people think it’s ok to treat us as inferior. And especially since this came from someone my friend has to work with on a daily basis, even though his job is very queer friendly, it makes him fell just a little bit extra shit at work.